Please, stop asking "What do you think?"
Please, stop asking "What do you think?"
If I ask "what do you think"
I want to know what you think.
That simple.
If you agree, fine.
If you disagree, fine.
If you have other ideas, fine.
Simple question, "What Do You Think"?
Why do some people feel upset, troubled, mad, put-off, disturbed, offended, etc...., when people tell them what they think?
They asked the Question "what do you think"
If you do not want a true answer to the question, do not ask.
I am asking "What do you think"
I want to know what you think.
That simple.
If you agree, fine.
If you disagree, fine.
If you have other ideas, fine.
Simple question, "What Do You Think"?
Why do some people feel upset, troubled, mad, put-off, disturbed, offended, etc...., when people tell them what they think?
They asked the Question "what do you think"
If you do not want a true answer to the question, do not ask.
I am asking "What do you think"
The things they do not tell you, are usually the clue to solving the problem.
When I was a kid I wanted to be older.... This is not what I expected
YaPI(any iso installer)
When I was a kid I wanted to be older.... This is not what I expected
YaPI(any iso installer)
I think I have not yet experienced this problem.
However, I also think I have experienced a different problem. I ask people "What do you think" about something, requesting an opinion on something that has not yet occurred (and therefore there is no fact establishing which way it went). Instead of giving me an opinion, they often respond with "I don't know" which only means that they are not certain of the ultimate factual answer, and provides no meaningful response to my actual question.
Example:
Me: "Hey, Mom, it looks like it might rain soon. What do you think?"
Mom: "I don't know..."
What? Cue the error handler, that response does not make sense.
Of course, when I try to explain the issue, the other person gets frustrated and just repeats their prior response. (Not helpful!)
Aargh.
What do you folks think?
However, I also think I have experienced a different problem. I ask people "What do you think" about something, requesting an opinion on something that has not yet occurred (and therefore there is no fact establishing which way it went). Instead of giving me an opinion, they often respond with "I don't know" which only means that they are not certain of the ultimate factual answer, and provides no meaningful response to my actual question.
Example:
Me: "Hey, Mom, it looks like it might rain soon. What do you think?"
Mom: "I don't know..."
What? Cue the error handler, that response does not make sense.
Of course, when I try to explain the issue, the other person gets frustrated and just repeats their prior response. (Not helpful!)
Aargh.
What do you folks think?
I Think I am glad I was not on a Frontier Airlines Flight from Dallas To Cleveland recently.
I think Windows XP has the hardest way to fix MBR.
I think I will watch the Simpsons and Futurama Tonight.
I think it is time to walk over to the shop fridge and see how many beers are left in it.
I think I don't think much sometimes.
Edit:
Looks like some dead cats were thrown into the party.
As Usual.
I think Windows XP has the hardest way to fix MBR.
I think I will watch the Simpsons and Futurama Tonight.
I think it is time to walk over to the shop fridge and see how many beers are left in it.
I think I don't think much sometimes.
Edit:
Holy Cow. I did not know when I posted, this thread was tied into Tuxxs locked thread.I think I don't think much sometimes.
Looks like some dead cats were thrown into the party.
As Usual.
Contemporary psychological research tells us that, when asked a question, people (their brain) quickly replace the question with one they know how to answer, and answer accordingly. It's an automatic reaction, something we are not generally aware of. If we are made aware, and enter a "less-intuitive, more-reasoned" thinking mode, then we start answering the original question, if we can. So, one way of getting more often the answer you expect is to improve/adapt the question you are asking. It also helps a lot if a discussion around the first answer takes place.
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Yeah, annoying. And a lot of people seem to resist offering an opinion because they want to shut discussion down. Seems like they don't WANT to think. Is thinking too hard?starhawk wrote:Me: "Hey, Mom, it looks like it might rain soon. What do you think?"
Mom: "I don't know..."
Sometimes people don't want to volunteer an opinion because they are afraid their opinion will be used against them. I think that's sad. I value robust questioning and robust discussion. It drives progress.
greengeek wrote:And a lot of people seem to resist offering an opinion because they want to shut discussion down.
That happens to me often, I have an employee who is too much talkative, seems one of those people that can´t be in silence, so to start a talk, he asks my opinion on something.
With an 'I don´t know' I shut down the talk. After all, I pay him for work, not for Public Relations.
Sometimes, is hard to go an collect enough data to have a well founded opinion. At this moment, I don't want to go outside, look at the clouds, feel the wind, etc, and then give you my opinion if it's going to rain or not.Seems like they don't WANT to think. Is thinking too hard?
Husbands, you mean...Sometimes people don't want to volunteer an opinion because they are afraid their opinion will be used against them.
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This is the problem with telling people to vote (assuming they live in a democracy). Voting is asking people to say what they think, only most voters won't have gone to the trouble to find out anything about the issues, never mind the candidates, who will say anything to get elected anyway. What's a citizen to do?Galbi wrote:...Sometimes, is hard to go an collect enough data to have a well founded opinion. At this moment, I don't want to go outside, look at the clouds, feel the wind, etc, and then give you my opinion if it's going to rain or not...
People usually interpret what they see/hear etc based on context, person, implications, consequences etc.
So our perception of who is asking, how is asking, what is asking, why is asking etc, has a huge impact on our response, if any.
So our perception of who is asking, how is asking, what is asking, why is asking etc, has a huge impact on our response, if any.
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I guess this thread was inspired by the discussion of ttuuxxx's English puppy.
Oldtimers here have a tendency to assume that posters know/observe the basic rules here, like.
1. Anyone can start a project;
2. As long as you do not force your project on people, you can happily move forward;
3. To move forward, pay attention to what people say, but don't lose heart if you don't like what they say.
I guess the "what do you think" question starts becoming a problem when the "asker" gets unsupportive feedback in 3.
Some negative feedback happens because some people ignore 1 and 2.
Oldtimers here have a tendency to assume that posters know/observe the basic rules here, like.
1. Anyone can start a project;
2. As long as you do not force your project on people, you can happily move forward;
3. To move forward, pay attention to what people say, but don't lose heart if you don't like what they say.
I guess the "what do you think" question starts becoming a problem when the "asker" gets unsupportive feedback in 3.
Some negative feedback happens because some people ignore 1 and 2.
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I seem to recall a community edition of Puppy that had lots of input as to what it should include that slowed the release of it till the administrator of it, WhoDo just went ahead and included what he thought was right.
It took a heavy toll on him with the suggestions that seemed to be more like demands. That took the fun out of Puppy for him and I am still not sure he has recovered fully from it other than not wanting to head any more community editions of Puppy.
This was definitely a case of the title of this thread being negative to the administrator of that community edition!
It took a heavy toll on him with the suggestions that seemed to be more like demands. That took the fun out of Puppy for him and I am still not sure he has recovered fully from it other than not wanting to head any more community editions of Puppy.
This was definitely a case of the title of this thread being negative to the administrator of that community edition!
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There is an old Indian (not red indian, Just my India in Asia) saying in Marathi Language....
(I will just type phonetically) " Ekave janache, Karave Manache"
It means you should listen to people, but do what your heart tells you to.
It implies two things..
1) Listen to people --- This is the best way to collect ideas, different perspectives, Many brains are always better than single brain.
2) Do what your heart tells you --- After evaluating what people and you say, Do the thing that your heart feels is right.
The trouble is when we do only one thing. We must do both things to have harmony in your life.
- Neeraj
(I will just type phonetically) " Ekave janache, Karave Manache"
It means you should listen to people, but do what your heart tells you to.
It implies two things..
1) Listen to people --- This is the best way to collect ideas, different perspectives, Many brains are always better than single brain.
2) Do what your heart tells you --- After evaluating what people and you say, Do the thing that your heart feels is right.
The trouble is when we do only one thing. We must do both things to have harmony in your life.
- Neeraj
"One of my most productive days was throwing away 1000 lines of code."
- Ken Thompson
“We tend to overestimate the effect of a technology in the short run and underestimate the effect in the long run.â€
- Amara’s Law.
- Ken Thompson
“We tend to overestimate the effect of a technology in the short run and underestimate the effect in the long run.â€
- Amara’s Law.